By psychot. Jesús Enrique Romero Juárez.
It is common to say that adolescents are in crisis, they are facing physical, emotional, behavioral, social changes; to mention just a few. They are observed with humor changes, they are irritable, it is common to see them discouraged, demotivated and even sad.
Sometimes we even use pejorative terms such as “odilescence” or “abhorrence” to refer to them. But what do you think if I affirm that adolescents are only living that stage of life? And what do you think that the parents of adolescents are in crisis?
The parents of teenagers affirm that one day to another they changed our children. Before we all went to the weekend activities; However, now they do not want to leave, they prefer to be locked in their bedroom connected to their devices.
A couple of months ago I witnessed a scene where the mother and dad of a teenager recriminated him that they never saw him take a book and that his notebooks were empty.
This young teenager replied forcefully: “Look, in this cell phone I have the photographs of what the teacher notes on the board, so I study; and I no longer open my books because I prefer to download them and read them on the tablet.”
This is a magnificent example that adolescents address reality, as in the case of the way of studying, very differently than their parents did in our adolescence.
Needless to when we hear them talk about fluid gender or inclusive language, as we do not understand it, we prefer to disqualify it or say that it is an absurd fashion.
Can you think of more examples?
Educating a teenager is not an easy task; It is a mixed task because we can feel very gratified, or frustrated, or also envious.
He is very encouraging when our children get good notes at school, we feel that our effort to take them to school and pay their materials has been worth it.
Frustration is also around us when it seems that their habits that we strive to achieve so much, lose them in a jiffy, or when their qualifications are very bad.
There is an aspect that is spoken of little, our children can also cause us envy, as well as read, envy! Many of us have achieved that our children are better in several areas than us at that age, so we claim and say phrases such as: “I wish I had had that opportunity, really that you do not value my effort,” “oh, if my parents had done that for me.”
It is quite likely that our unattered desires in adolescence become claims, we must be very attentive to our emotions not to hurt our children.
That is why I affirm that the parents of teenagers had a bad time because no one taught us to educate teenagers.
It is also worth asking for help when we have lost the compass in the education of adolescent children.
Your imports! And in C7 Mental Health we are to listen to you and attend you.
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