Maternity was not a priority for Mónica Muñoz. He did not enter his plans. He liked the children a lot and enjoyed the time that passed … With the children of his friends, but he did not feel the call of being a mother. However, when he turned 38, something woke up inside. He raised it, but as at that time his employment situation and other personal circumstances were not the most conducive, he parked the idea a few more years.
It was shortly before the pandemic, when Monica and her husband began to seriously consider having a child. She had already fulfilled the 47. After a medical review in which everything was perfect, they decided to challenge their biological clock and throw themselves to it, with the conviction that “if you want to be a mother, you have to try by all possible means.” And so it was. The pregnancy passed normally and Monica, who is a journalist and directs her own communication agency, could work until the last day. He assures that those months were the most beautiful of his life. Her daughter Luz was born in August 2022 illuminating her life and that of her husband. He assures that “he arrived at the right moment.”
Mónica has already turned 50 and says she does not feel vertigo for late motherhood. «The only thing that scares me is that something happens to me or my daughter. Before I was not afraid of death. Now, ”he admits with sincerity. Because everything else – social criticisms and trials for age – little care. «With 20 years perhaps my body was more prepared for motherhood, but my mind no and my life situation either. Now I have more maturity, more experience, more emotional stability and more patience. I also have more tools to face conflicts and I can transmit it to light, ”he says, disassembling many stigmas around motherhood from 40.
Monica did not feel any prejudice within her environment due to her age. On the contrary. All his family and friends welcomed the news with total naturalness. «What is true is that men are not judged when they are parents at 55 or 60 years, but women do, even when they are mothers due to adoption or subrogated gestation. There is a double measure of measuring that is still present, even if it is hidden. Miguel Bosé was not questioned when he was a father with more than 50 years. Ana Obregón yes, ”he continues.
The birth of light was an emotional revolution for Monica and her partner. «He has given us life. It has been a gift from the universe, ”he says excitedly. She now prioritizes the really important. «I have reorganized my whole life to be with my daughter as long as possible. I get up at half past five or six in the morning to advance work and be able to spend the afternoon with her. I don’t miss a park afternoon «, he explains. «To those women who are doubting maternity at more advanced ages, I would tell them that, if they want, to do so. Do not leave it out of fear. That they try in whatever, natural, in vitro fertilization, adoption … but do not stay without trying. Because the energy is given to you, not the age. And I feel more alive than ever, ”he advises.
He feels that the current system forces many families to rely too much on grandparents or other caregivers. Missing more real conciliation measures. «Aid for motherhood and paternity should improve, especially for self -employed. We are in a system in which both parents have to work and that complicates a lot to be able to raise your children directly, ”he says. «For me, motherhood has been life. Luz is the light of my life and that of my husband, in the most literal sense, ”he concludes.
