Emilia Drago | Mother’s Day | “It is important to take the time to accept yourself as you are after being a mother, not judging you” | ARE

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Emilia’s mother, Blasi Espinosa, accompanies us. He will not have a role in the work, but a special place in this tribute to mothers. “Don’t you tell me that you are going to use?”, Increase Blasi, with the gigantic wig in his hand. “Yes, mom.” Blasi looks at her, turn her eyes and laughs.

Emilia is the youngest of five brothers and Blasi inherited the artistic vein, that love for theater and Peruvian dances. And, apparently, also the sense of humor. It always resorts that absolute chaos appears and the relentless doubts about motherhood appear.

“We wanted to talk about all those things that, like mom, happen to you when you are pregnant, you give birth and do not tell because you think you are the only one. But then you understand that they all go through the same thing. The only one is called” Call me mom “because I call her, I demand her attention, and at the same time my daughters demand it to me,” Emilia tells us. We talked with her and took the opportunity to tear some statements to her mother, the true protagonist behind the curtain.

Emilia: The show was born in the pandemic. I gave birth to my second daughter in 2020. The quarantine grabbed me pregnant. And when my daughter was two months old, I needed to throw away, express, create something. The initial show is assembled with Paloma Reyes de Sá (the director) as a live broadcast. When we moved to the theater, Francisco Luna joined and more numbers, live music, original songs, were created.

E: Yes because women and mothers are expected to be in a certain way. For example, giving birth and the next day is well or that a month you are already in your weight. All of that comes from the same society and what we see on social networks. Some women are royal while in the clinic, and I criticize that a bit. There is a character – the tit – with whom I reflect on breastfeeding. A woman who has given birth can do whatever you want, you should not judge if you do not want to breastfeed or if you are in public and take out the tit to give the baby. That sees it badly and this character fulfills the function of criticizing.

E: They paint us an idea or many times you do not have the complete information of what it implies being a mother. It is shocking when your baby is born and you become very wild and we understand that there is a human being that depends totally on you. Then, you realize that not only implies that it survives, but also to raise it well, teach him things and do his best. When you are not a mother, you are not as aware of things as basic as who taught you to walk, who taught you to eat, who taught you to clean the poto.

E: I don’t know exactly if you get over it completely. For example, I have stretch marks and whenever I look in the mirror I will see them. Except that you operate, there will always be a pellejito because my belly was very large and I got off the way, one is dealing with that all the time and you have to face it with self -esteem, self -knowledge and acceptance. It is important to take the time to accept yourself as you are after being a mother, not judging you. If you have stretch marks and your body has remained in a different way it is because a person of you was born. You learn to live and love you in that new way.

Blasi: The time was so different. My pregnancies were beautiful. I never felt anguish, it lived differently. There were not so many networks or so much influence of ideas. Before everything was simpler. You left pregnant and you didn’t even know if I would be a man or woman. Now much importance is given to things that – my opinion – do not have it. Technology and networks lead you to want to create an almost perfect life, without errors, with solutions for everything … Everything programmed. My way of being was always a bit distracted, cheerful, happy, not programmed.

B: [La mira y se toma su tiempo para pensar]. When you have 70, you will see what you will be quiet because you have lived very fast. Your life is accelerated, as was mine, but at a wild speed. We seem that we do not stop, but with an immense distance from your skills. I imagine you 70, Superfeliz, looking at your daughters, just as I look at you and fill myself with joy. I think you are also going to be like your grandmother – my mother – reflective, because at 70 you are already reflective, then, daughter, what else are you going to do if everything hurts. [Se ríen].

E: What my mother says, because I don’t know what it feels like to be a grandmother, but my mother’s relationship with my daughters has a very bacán connection that I appreciate a lot. In addition, I see it in the grandmother’s role and is very present. I see that he does things with my daughters that did not leave me. His advice are: “Hey, you are already relaxed. It’s not so serious, it’s going to happen.” I try to grab them, but sometimes the situations overwhelm me.

E: Something very similar to what my mother says. I would motivate them to live a relaxed life and do what they really like. I always tell you that, whatever they do in life, do it well and with passion. If you want to be an actress – and my daughter Luna has already told me – I would say: do it and be happy, because what makes you happy will probably also give you money. I still don’t imagine them. My biggest concern, when I see them, is how they will do to reach 18 or 20. That they study, to start working. I only trust that they will do it as I did.

E: With two daughters it is very good. Having three must surely be very nice, but I think it requires a lot of my energy.

B: Anxious, they are always anxious.

E: Children are now exposed to many things, so you have to help them more specific to attention. I say, pucha with three I would have to stop paying attention to one to meet the other and, probably, I would go crazy. //