Freedom is one of the keys that allows us to achieve happiness in our lives, but to do so we must
be very clear about what we want and, above all, what we deserve. Many times, in order not to disappoint another person or other people’s expectations, we end up doing things that we don’t feel like doing.
Feeling forced to carry out actions that you do not want for the simple fact of trying to please others, leads you to not knowing how to say “no”, something that in the long run
can have bad consequences. The decision-making capacity of each person must always be present, and know how to set limits.
Assertiveness is the best tool to say “no”
If this profile that we are describing corresponds to your way of being, then you have to reflect.
Where does that fear of refusal come from?, the fact of being able to disappoint others and the need for approval. You may have experienced bad relationships in the past, and this has led to that rejection of “no.”
But what you have to be clear about is that this is not a bad thing, but very beneficial for you and your mental health. Having to constantly make plans or things that you don’t feel like doing
can lead to a feeling of frustration constant, which ends up exploding in the form of anger and discomfort.
Assertiveness will be your best ally in these cases, always trying not to hurt the other person with our response. The most advisable thing is not to give a dry “no”, but rather
be accompanied by an explanation with which we make the opposing party understand our position.
The importance of knowing yourself
Many times these types of situations arise because we have not built a good relationship with ourselves, where we
we have sat down to listen to each other and to find out what it is that we really want. That’s when you err on the side of comfort, and adapting to what others want, instead of your own preferences.
This often even happens unconsciously, due to that lack of personal knowledge, which causes you to enter a loop of giving in and lying to reject other people’s proposals. And learning to express this word can be
a powerful change in our life everyday.
It can help us improve our quality of time and manage it in a more efficient and satisfactory way. It allows us to enjoy the freedom that
provides setting healthy boundariesavoiding the intrusion of negative thoughts and attitudes both with ourselves and with others.
Although at first you may feel uncomfortable, don’t stop doing it, since practice makes perfect, and little by little you will enjoy the satisfaction that comes with this liberating gesture. In the long run you will feel a
feeling of empowerment and self-affirmationhaving control of your life, your decisions and your time, which will lead to greater happiness and general well-being.
